Something I’ve noticed
about myself is that I tend to want to have direction in my life. I like having someone tell me what I’m
supposed to do and for how long to do it and in what way and where and
how. I rarely take any initiative in my
own life. No wonder I’m not able to
fully connect with my inner self and make lasting changes to my behavior.
I recently started
reading this book by Bob Harper (of Biggest Loser tv fame). It’s called Are You Ready! Sure the
title is a little silly because that is technically a question but they used it
as a statement, so it doesn’t really make sense. But I suppose it works. It makes you question what the book is
about. I’m still in part 1 of 3, but I can
tell this is a great book and is going to help me out in my process of changing
things in my life. It covers subjects
like accepting yourself as you are, forgiving yourself for your perceived
failures, and learning to love yourself by focusing on just one thing about
yourself that you like or that you’re good at (for instance, I have GREAT calf
and shin muscles and I’m really good at problem solving).
This book was a gift
from my bestie, Jessica, when she came down to visit me at the beginning of
May. Now that I’ve finally gotten to
reading it I’m really glad she did. I think
it’s going to help me out a good deal. Especially
now that my therapist has worked out a good payment arrangement with my copays
so that I’m financially able to continue seeing her on a regular basis.
I’m really hoping to
make some progress with getting a handle on my binge eating and being able to
tell myself “no” when it comes to eating food beyond what I need to eat. A couple times over the last week and a half,
I’ve been able to rein myself in, but for the most part I’ve been generally
unsuccessful with controlling my eating of excess food.
I am pretty sure that
my binge eating stems from my relationship with “JP” because before him, I didn’t
have this problem. I do it for comfort, I’m
pretty sure of that as well. I probably
also do it because I don’t feel worthy and I lack confidence in myself to make
good and positive changes in my life. I’m
probably also afraid of actually making changes. Change is scary. Especially when you lack confidence in
yourself like I do.
Sure, I like to make
like I’m self-confident and self-assure.
I like to act like I’m not afraid of what will happen if I do this or
that. But really, I’m terrified to make
the changes I need to make, even though I know that I need to make them. I’m really hoping that therapy will help me
learn to love myself again and will help me gain confidence in myself and not
be afraid to make changes in my life.